8 Signs Your Man Isn’t Ready To Grow Up

Every relationship comes to a crossroads when both people have to decide what type of commitment they want, if at all. Some of us have clear rules and don’t waste time playing around any longer than three months; while, others hang on for years. But, there is no need to squander precious time with someone who isn’t ready to step up. If you’re beyond “buddy” or “boo” status and ready for something steady, it’s time to start weeding out the boys (who may be nice) but just aren’t ready to grow up. Don’t know the signs? Here are a few to get you moving.

1. He’s still in school…getting his third Bachelor’s degree. Not a Master’s, not a Doctorate, not a Ph.D.—a third Bachelor’s degree. It’s wonderful that he is educated, but he doesn’t have a clear vision. Many of us figure out who and want it is we want to be during those first four years and progress toward our professional goals thereafter. A man who is unsure of who he is and where he would like to go is not prepared to make long-term commitments. He may be bright but he needs more time to define his vision.
2. He still heads to Cancun for Spring Break. Remember the 20 year-old guy that would come to your high school parties? This guy is no different. When college ends so does the pseudo-adulthood debauchery that goes with it. Guys who feel the need to rehash their younger years are simply avoiding the maturity expected with age. Nothing wrong with being the life of the party so long as it’s not a foam party…full of underage co-eds.

3. He’s unemployed by choice. Yes, the recession has left many jobless; but, there are some who also haven’t been looking very hard. Whether he’s living on student loans or mooching off Mom, an able-bodied, unemployed man is a sign of pure laziness. If you’re in the market for marriage-material, you need someone resourceful and ready to hustle (legally).

4. He’s over 25 and lives at home with his parents. There is a level of independence a mature man has that won’t allow him to live with his parents except in the case of dire (and I mean lost his job, house burned down) circumstances. The guy who contently lives at home isn’t ready to do what’s necessary to leave the nest. If he can’t (or won’t) provide the basics for himself, surely he can’t do much for you. Think Baby Boy. He may be cute and nice, but babies and STDs are the only thing you can count on from Jody-types.

5.His bro-circle is impenetrable. You want a guy with a solid group of friends. Among many things, it lets you know he has a sense of loyalty; but, sometimes, the boys can be too much and a force to reckon with when they always come first. When the bromance is too strong, it’s time to move on. Not because he’s not a good guy, it’s just not the right time. When he’s ready for a serious relationship, his priorities will shift accordingly.

6.He’s ready for kids but not marriage. Don’t waste your time fooling around with guys who think they can be fathers before husbands. “Commitment issues” are one of the biggest signs of immaturity. If he’s unable to make decisions and follow-through, throw him back to the girls with low standards. It’s likely going to be a while before he grows up, if ever.

7.He fights guys who “try” him. We want to feel like our man can hold his own and throw hands if necessary, but it’s quite alright if he never actually shows us. Why? Fighting is juvenile. A grown (or growing) man has too much to lose over nonsense.

Ways To Make Him Crazy About You

If you think you do not have the qualities to attract men, then you probably do not know that the art of attraction is a skill that can be learned. With the right techniques, you can make him go crazy for you. You do not have to remain frustrated because there are things you can do to attract the man of your dreams. Here are some tips:
Be an interesting woman. To make him go crazy for you, you have to show him that you are someone interesting. Do not make your life revolve just around him but make a life of your own. Find time for your hobbies and learn new things. Men find women who are not too dependent and can do things on their own very attractive and interesting. An interesting woman is a man magnet.

Be a good conversationalist. Being too loud and talkative is a big turn off for most men but if you are too quiet, men will find you boring. The key to make him go crazy for you is to be a good conversationalist. He will get amazed that you can talk about a wide range of topics. He will eventually want to spend more time with you because he enjoys talking to you.

Be a pleasant person to be with. Women who are very negative and too serious are not pleasant to be with because they tend to create a sad and gloomy environment. People who are bubbly and happy are nice to be with and if you have those qualities you can make him go crazy for you. If you can brighten up his day, you can make him go crazy for you and he will definitely look forward to be with you all the time.

Appear beautiful. The physical appearance of women is important to most men. You do not have to possess a face and a body like those of Hollywood stars to make him go crazy for you but you have to make an effort to look beautiful. Be at ease with your body and accept your flaws because everybody has them. Know your best features and use it to your advantage. If you have long beautiful legs then do not be afraid to flaunt it once in while but be careful not too appear too cheap. If you think your eyes are not attractive, there are ways to improve them like wearing a proper eye make-up. Practice good hygiene, always appear fresh, smell good and know how to dress properly. You can make him go crazy for you if you know how to feel and look beautiful

5 Reasons Why Girls Now Flaunt Bòòbs On FaceBook!

Some might say this is totally unnecessary…but indeed it’s an issue worth bothering about. While others could seemingly acknowledge the fact that such is becoming a trend among the female students in Nigeria’s tertiary institutions.This piece, is not aimed at any person(s) whatsoever, actually brings forth the simple realities for this rising situation. Here’s notably 5 REASONS:

Reason 1: The feeling of INSECURITY among peers, in an intellectual terrain;

Reason 2: Priority for ATTRACTION rather than simple admiration;

Reason 3: The FEAR FACTOR of being on the losing end in relationships;

Reason 4: Misplacing CHEAP SLÚT with actual appreciable beauty;

Reason 5: Ultimately, POVERTY has made a deep cut through.

It’s really a shame. And these apply to others as well parading boòòs in the open.

How To Dress When Meeting The In-laws! For The First Time [MUST READ]

First impressions count a lot and you need to make a good impression when meeting your in-laws. It is good to be yourself but what you wear on your first day can ruin your reputation with your in-laws for life!

For guys, it’s quite easy, a simple shirt and trousers will do. Here are some tips for guys,
1.Your attire should be well pressed.
2.Do not sag your trousers. Make sure your trousers are on your waist line

3.Do not wear loud colors; you do not want to be seen as a clown.

4.Please avoid shorts and sandals. It makes you look too casual and a bit nonchalant.

5.Make sure you have the essentials of a gentleman on you. Two handkerchiefs, patience, confidence and a smile.

In order to stay safe, I’ll advise a casual African print shirt, clean well pressed trousers and nice shoes and don’t forget to smell good.

Ladies, ladies, ladies! Ladies have a bit more work to do with the dressing. Your dressing says lot about you.

1.Avoid showing clėavage.
2.Your jewelry shouldn’t be distracting. You don’t want to be referred as the lady with the huge yellow studded earrings or the lady whose necklace looked like a dog’s collar.

3.Don’t be afraid to wear jeans. It is easy to just play safe and wear a dress or skirt but it also depends on where you are going. Just take a trouser like pair of jeans which is not too tight or too loose and definitely not faded.

4.Avoid stilettos. If you want to add some height, two or three inches heels will do. If you are going flats, avoid sneakers. It might come across as lackadaisical.

5.Make your bag medium sized. Do not go with a ‘sack’; a medium sized bag is the best with all the essentials you need.

6.Don’t apply a lot of make up and keep your hairstyle as modest as possible. You definitely don’t want to be remembered as the caricature ‘Chinedu’ brought home.

7.Mini and maxi skirts are off limits. Keep your hemlines in that safe zone between the upper knees and mid-calf area.

8.Smile.
Most importantly, be down to earth and do not foist yourself on your in-laws!

Kano Attack Killed 45 – Ohaneze Ndigbo • Sends SOS To Jonathan On Security Of Citizens In North

Kano Attack Killed 45 – Ohaneze Ndigbo • Sends SOS To Jonathan On Security Of Citizens In North
Posted by: daniel on July 31, 2013

Conflicting figures have emerged over the actual figure of casualties from Monday’s multiple explosions in Kano as both the army and police put theirs at 12, but the Igbo community claimed that the bombings killed 45.

The explosions ripped through Sabon Gari, an area mostly occupied by non-indigenes.
As at the time of writing this report, no group has claimed responsibility for the explosions which bear similar patterns with past attacks by radical Islamist sect, Boko Haram.
It was reported that no fewer than four different explosions were heard around outdoor bars in Sabon Gari, just as unconfirmed reports say the perpetrators pumped hot lead into some survivors before fleeing the scene.
In a statement yesterday on the development, Chairman, Kano chapter of the pan-Igbo socio-cultural organisation, Ohanaeze Ndigbo, Chief Michael Tobias Idika said:
“On Monday, July 29, between 9 and 9:30 pm, terrorists invaded Sabon Gari, an enclave carved out for non-natives, and planted Improvised Explosive Devices (IEDs), which exploded almost simultaneously at Enugu/Igbo Road, near International Hotel; and on New Road, directly opposite the popular Ado Bayero Square—precisely at No. 38, 39, 40 and 41.
“At 41 New Road, the Christ Salvation Pentecostal Church was also bombed at the peak of evening worship. Ohanaeze’s account can confirm 39 deaths in New Road and six in Igbo/Enugu Road; and also unspecified number of people got injured.

“The team of Ohanaeze Ndigbo, Kano State chapter, arrived at the scenes at about 9:30 p.m. and witnessed the movement of bodies and the wounded by security agencies, especially the Army.
“Ohanaeze Ndigbo, however, can recall that this is not the first time terrorists have invaded Sabon Gari, particularly, New Road. In fact, on that same spot where the latest incident happened, several attempts have been made to terrorise Nigerian citizens. As a reputable organisation, we call for adequate security of lives and property in northern Nigeria.
“Ohanaeze Ndigbo also commends the spirited efforts of the Assistant Inspector General of Police David Omojola in-charge of Zone 1, who was accompanied by the Commissioner of Police, Musa Daura, to the scene of the incident for on-the-spot assessment.
“However, without fear of contradiction, Ohanaeze Ndigbo Kano registers its deep feelings over the unprovoked attacks on Sabon Gari, Kano, dominated by Ndigbo.
“At this point, Ohanaeze Ndigbo calls on President Goodluck Ebele Jonathan to make haste and protect the lives of citizens resident in the northern part of the country, particularly, in Kano, with undisputed status of boosting economy and politics in Nigeria.
“To all the departed souls and the wounded in this grievous attack, we register our deep sympathy and only hope that those in authorities, including all security agencies, would brace and take decisive action to end this carnage – man’s inhumanity to man.”

A MUST READ EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW WITH ” Redeemed Pastor Daughter” THAT CONVERTED TO ISLAM

The conversion to Islam of 25-year-old Charity Uzoechina, daughter of Pastor Raymond Uzoechina of the Redeem Christian Church of God, Kwankwashe, Suleja, continues to generate controversy.
Her father accused the Estu Nupe, Alhaji Yahaya Abubukar, of hypnotizing his daughter, who has since changed her name to A’isha, to embrace Islam. A’isha, who hails from Asaba, Delta State, came to Abuja at the age of 10 when her father relocated from Lagos.
After her secondary school education at Army Day Secondary School Asokoro, Abuja she got admission into Federal Polytechnic, Bida to read Public Administration. She, however, withdrew from the course in her first year. She embraced Islam on February 15, 2013. A’isha said since her family relocated to Suleja, Niger State, she has been in the midst of Muslims, which accorded her the opportunity to have several Muslims friends and learnt a lot about Islam.

The travails of A’isha began when she ran to the Estu Nupe’s palace in Bida on March 1, this year to seek protection against any aggression she may face should her family know about her conversion to Islam. This led to a controversy that is still ongoing.

A’isha has dragged her own father, a Pastor, to a Shariah court in Bida, Niger State. The court is expected to rule on August 1, 2013 whether or not she should be released to her parents or not.

She speaks exclusively to Weekly Trust. Excerpts:

What is your name?

Aisha Uzoechina: I was formerly known as Charity Uzoechina and now A’isha Uzoechina. Why the change of name? I changed my name because I have accepted Islam.

What brought you to Bida?

I came to Bida in 2012 to read Public Administration at the Federal Polytechnic, Bida.

Are you still a student of Federal Polytechnic Bida?

No, I am not. I have withdrawn from the school.

Did you go back home?

No, I did not go home. At the beginning I was planning to go back home, because I wanted to tell my father that I have converted to Islam. When I converted, I was afraid to tell my parents, because of the way my father would behave. I know he will not take it lightly with me. So, for that I refused to go back home.

Did anybody force or enticed you to join Islam?

I joined Islam on my own. Nobody enticed me with anything to join Islam. What informed your decision to join Islam? I converted to Islam because I love the character of Muslims, particularly the way they behave. You know Muslims believe in God. I have Muslim friends and I watch what they do, that enticed me to join Islam. I used to read Qur’an when I was a Christian. I always join them to read Qur’an and through that I found out that it is the same one God they worship. So I embraced Islam.

How did your father come to know about your change of faith?

When I ran to the palace, I told you, it was very difficult before I could see the Emir. When I saw him, the emir refused to accept me, because my father did not know about it. He, therefore, collected my father’s number from me and called him. The following day my father came and said he wanted to see me. When we met we talked one on one.

What did you tell him?

Well the Emir told him that I have converted to Islam. When my father talked to me, he said let’s go home, but I refused. I told him that I will not change my faith, because I have already accepted Islam and this is where I want to stay. He, therefore, threatened me so much so that I became scared of him.

What did he do to you amounting to a threat?

In the first place you know, I put on Hijab (veil), he said I should remove the Hijab. He was angry and used some harsh words on me, directing that I should remove the Hijab, but I refused. He threatened to take me to a village where nobody will set his eyes on me. So I became scared of him, therefore I refused to follow him. That is it.

Did the Emir intervene?

The emir gave him one week to come back, but he came back even before it reached one week. He said he must take me home. He will not take me to our house, but he’ll take me to somewhere that nobody will set his eyes on me. I quickly ran back to the emir and to the Shari’a Court for protection. I don’t want to go back to my father, because he is threatening me.

How did you come to know about the Shari’a Court?

I found out from people. I went to them on my own to formally lodge my complaint.

Why Shari’a Court?

They have to protect me. You know when you take a case to court over life threatening issue, the court must protect you. That is it.

Did your father come back after you refused to follow him?

He came back. He kept on coming back. The other time he even threatened to bring some people to kidnap me.

Is it true that at a time your father came with the Christian Association of Nigeria (CAN) officials to you?

Yes.

Is it true that you also went to the Jama’atul Nasril Islam (JNI)?

Yes.

Why did you go to JNI?

I told you and I’ll still repeat it, though I don’t want to repeat my words again. I want them to intervene on my behalf, the threat is too much. Now I can’t go anywhere, I cannot even continue with my schooling. I cannot do anything because of the way he has been threatening me. He is still bringing people up till now to keep watch on me.

How do you know that your father has assigned people to keep watch on you?
There was a time that I wanted to go out, information came to me that my father was around and I had to stay back since I don’t want him to take me away. I know that if I gout anytime,I he’ll pick me up.

How did you come to know about JNI?

I have been reading about them. That is why I went to them.

How did you present your case to JNI?

I wrote to them seeking for their intervention, because I do not know how to go about convincing my father. I also learnt that the emir wanted to hand me over to my father, because the burden of my case is becoming too much for him to bear.

If your father should promise to allow you to practice your new faith, will you go with him? I’ll not. In a family that you are the only
Muslim, how can you practice in that house?

You know when he (my father) came along with my mother the other time, his actions and the harsh words he used, even if I go back home, my life will not be secured in his hand. That is why I said I’ll not go.

Did you start learning anything about Islam?

Yes, I started learning how to perform ablution. I have learnt how to recite Surah Al-Fatihah, I am now in my second surah.

Do you pray five times a day?

Yes I do. I am even fasting now. I have been fasting since the beginning of the month of Ramadan.

What is your massage to people wanting to join Islam?

I have only one massage. Islam is good. Muslims are truthful, everything they say, they believe in God and they carry people along. Once a person converted to Islam, he’ll be carried along until he is strong to stand on his own.

-Weekly Trust

What is your appeal to your parent?

I am appealing to my parents not to be angry with me. My conversion to Islam will not separate us. I still love them, even though I am here. They can come and visit me and I can also visit them. They shouldn’t think my new faith will take away the love I have for them. It will not. I am very sorry

GOOD NEWS :: UNITED KINGDOM BUSINESS SECRETARY,Vince Cable, ATTACKS THE £3,000 BOND TO OBTAIN TOURIST VISA BY NIGERIANS

United Kingdom Business Secretary, Vince Cable, has urged his home country to scrap plans to make certain overseas visitors to Britain pay a £3,000 bond to obtain tourist visas because it sends out the “wrong message” about the country. In his second attack on the policy within 48 hours, Cable told the Financial Times that Number 10’s (Prime Minister’s residence) determination to press on with the visitor bond pilot in November was “disappointing.”

He said, “It is very disappointing and it has not been agreed across the coalition and it seems to send the wrong message that Britain is closed for business.”

There was an international outcry in June when it emerged that the government was planning to ask some visitors from India, Nigeria, Pakistan Kenya, Sri Lanka and Bangladesh to pay a £3,000 cash bond in return for a visitor visa to allow them to stay in the UK for up to six months.

The Home Office said the scheme would deter people from overstaying, but governments in Delhi and Abuja expressed “strong displeasure” about the plans.

Cable added, “The operation for the visa scheme, together with the bonds on these Commonwealth countries is simply having the effect of driving bonafide visitors who want to spend and to do business in the UK to France and Germany.”

Cable had on Sunday also warned that George’s Osborne’s mortgage guarantee scheme could stoke a housing bubble while dubbing a mobile billboard campaign telling illegal immigrants to “go home or face arrest” as “stupid and offensive”.

Cable’s reaction is sparking some concerns in senior Liberal Democrat circles, with one senior aide on Monday complaining that the business secretary seemed to be struggling to find any coalition policy he could defend.

Cable’s remarks are particularly embarrassing for Nick Clegg, the party leader, who originally proposed a visitor bond as a way of making his party appear tough on immigration.

However, the policy has proved deeply unpopular with many others in the parliamentary party.

Cable added, “The Liberal Democrats agreed for a bond scheme as an additional route for people who have been turned down, it was never meant to apply to everyone.”